Wednesday, 29 June 2016


Dear Mama,
I pray this letter finds you in great health and an ever increasing state of eeman. I pray that as i scribble these few words in the Great Month of Ramadhan, the blessings that you accrue not only grants you Janna but Shields you (By The Mercy of Allah) from decisions or deeds that may harm you and us, your progeny.
Mama, if you can recall, for years, I've been making funny comments and giving suggestions about how I'd want my Nikkah to be. But as my mother, you've always taken it on the lighter note. I admire that spirit of making light of situations in you. However, sincerely, Mama, that's my way of telling you that i prefer a quiet Nikkah.

I've grown to like the culture by which you brought me up. And the culture of marriage among families. The culture that I believe, was adapted by the generation before you. The culture that I know you do not even know does not belong to you. The culture that does not define us, as Muslims.
I've sat at a short distance and watched how our families and friends have conducted their Nikkah. And i must say, it's a beautiful culture. From the day the bride is bathed and designed with henna to the day the knot is tied. From the moment the Imam finally declares "Agalamba, Ajalamba" (a signatory to being husband and wife) to the moment the bride is ushered to dance in our local reception "Ashiga Fudufudu" I've admired them all simply because it's a culture that reminds me of my root and its people or indigents. I've admired them all because i loved to feed my eyes with how the bride moves to the rhythm of the beats or songs played. I've admired them simply because the bride always looked radiant, if not beautiful.

But Mama, I've come to understand a few things as i grow and reflect. A simple Nikkah is often the best. Why? Because it relieves both couple and families of so much stress and so many evil eyes. Why? Because most of the brides I've seen have either exposed their sensitive body parts or been made to do so which otherwise goes completely contrary to the tenets of covering up that were gracefully imbibed in the Islamic Culture. Mind you, i know and understand that Islamic Culture is so different from Our Traditions.
Mama, as I write to you, I grieve. Why?  Because, in as much as you'd want to revel in the feeling of praise for conducting my Nikkah by the community's standards, I believe, as your daughter, the standards that I choose as a young striving Muslim woman, should be of prime salience to you. Contrary to what you think "they" will say when you allow me to fully cover up on my wedding day, God in his infinite knowledge and Mercies, has made things easier for us so why bother?!  Again, I say why bother about what they think or will say.

Ah well, Mama, I believe we're all entitled to do what gives us comfort. However, in all we do, we strive, no matter how difficult it is, to first serve and please our creator. Now, since you can accept for others to choose being exposed, fixing weaves, nails, eye lashes and what have you on the day they willfully decide to serve Allah under a man whose dowry they accept, why then won't you allow me to do as I please on my big day too?! Is it, a case of 'Different Strokes for Different folks?!'.
Mama, I simply don't see the difficulty in this if you prefer to please Allaah other than our community. I love you. I respect you. I admire you. Well, of course, I do so because you bore, weaned and raised me for years. And that alone should influence you on making things easier on me for my big day. 
I'm sorry to be a bit blunt, Mama. But for what reason will you make me endure all these when all my life, I've been avoiding them. Remember, I'd never dance in "Ashiga Fudu Fudu". Not that I abhor it, but that has always been my nature. They even called me "Colloquial" or at best,  "Too Knowing", remember?! Why then shouldn't I be just what "they" think of me?! If you can easily accept that others continue the culture transferred to you by those before you, why not accept my conditions as well?! I sure believe  that, What is good for the goose, is equally relevant or good for the gander.

Dear Mama,  please I know my sisters, (a lot unnamed), have cried about their wedding days and wished things had been done differently. As such, I pray to you. I'm on bended knees that you help me please Allaah and enter my new home without strife and with your blessings but by the unlimited Mercies and Pleasure of Allah. I pray you help me fulfill the obligations required of me by Our Creator. Please know that I'm not saying that you invite me to sin but I'm imploring that you help me do a better good.
Yes, God did not say we shouldn't celebrate a beautiful union if we have the means. Yes, he does not stop us from feeling good and looking gorgeous on our big days. But, He certainly puts an exception to those Rules. They should be done in His way taught us by The Exemplar Beyond Compare, Rasuul (S. A.W.) He prefers we do it without hurting ourselves via extravagance that may end in debts after the ceremony. Extravagance that we may or not have.

God's given us a beautiful choice, Mama. Let's not, stress 'us' with a host of community's wantons. You think they will make fun of or insult you if you grant my  wish? As Allah expects of me? Ah!  But they do that to everyone aai?! When one does good that disturbs them, 'they' insult him. When you do bad that pleases 'them',  they insult you. But secretly praise you for firmly upholding the Principles of Islam. Such is the way of the forgetful one, man.

I implore you my Mama, I know you want the best for me. I admire and respect you for that and more. I know you lived and still live in a golden era but I'd love us to transition into a diamond one. One that brings us more blessings and less problems. I pray you understand me and do not take this the wrong way. I pray that as I sign off, this touches your heart and makes you increase your du'a for better offspring. Offspring that will respectfully and genuinely uphold the banner of Islam, In Shaa Allaah.
Assallaamu aleiykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh. Jazzaakilaahu Khairan, Mama.
Your daughter,

Diamond In The Rough

Monday, 28 March 2016


Being a woman is easy but being that of a Muslim is quite challenging yet, fulfilling.
Sometimes, you think you've had the worse of life until you hear that of another. For me, life has, in it's own subtle way, taught me to be content knowing Islam than being content as a Muslim. The trials and tribulations that come our way as a result of discovering Islam, is a test of our faith. However, it is more difficult on us women when we have to deal with the inferiority complexes pinned on us by our societies.

When i say societies, our consanguens are certainly not left out. To have to deal with them highly opposed to our covering up, our "Godly" lifestyles which they often term as colloquial, our zeal to achieve good in this world and the hereafter, the struggle to get ourselves well or critically informed (i.e.seeking knowledge) like our men, is not just an infringement on our rights as women but a display of ignorance (from their part)on our personas as Young Muslim women.

However, without hesitation amidst all the struggle to gain respect and have the utmost free will to worship or serve Allah, in our own ways; (perhaps, the ways we know best) we do so via our short falls and still constantly strive to attain piety, victory from our human races and a self fulfillment that keeps us going.
It is hard. Very hard being a Muslim woman. But with the love for God, it never occurs to us that there's that kind of challenge. We only remember that time of the month when our abdomen persists in a painful reminder of the fact that we are eligible mothers. We recall the times when things are rough but say Alhamdulillah. We reminisce on the good and nearly forget the bad. We do not have any memory of being Striving Muslim women.

That becomes, a gift that only us can be given. Why? Because, irrespective of what we face, good or bad, we still keep ourselves close to Allah. Yes, as i say to myself often,the road from yesterday was rough. Today, it is being tarred. But by tomorrow,all the roads would have been made smooth for a beautiful journey.

Toutes mes félicitations mes amie. We've been kept safe from harm's way. All Praises are Certainly to Allah. ALHAMDULILLAH! It's been Awesome being a Muslim woman.

Thursday, 11 February 2016


My prayer this morning. O Allah grant us the best of spouse, make us among those who will enter Janna without Hisaab, increase us in faith n give us the ability to do everything for your sake. Aameen.

Sunday, 2 November 2014


Every day God gives to you and i, is a gift.A Blessed gift.Which isn't even in disguise.So when He stops giving it to us,then we get to be with Him(God).

Getting to be with God simply means one thing.You're relieved of all your virtual world duties and struggles.Above all,you don't get to complain about how "unfair" life is.Why then,Fear death?We Should envisage death as the best gift we could ever receive from God.In so doing,we will live right for we know we're prone to it any time.

Besides,isn't it time we thought of this Qur'anic verse: Surah Al-Inshirah,Verse 5-6 "Surely with every difficulty is ease.With difficulty is surely ease" along the path of our meeting with God???!!!
May God increase our knowledge with understanding.Aameen.

Wednesday, 16 April 2014


What can be a holier cement to society than that women should be chaste and pure and crimes against sex rooted out as a result of it? Should we not let decency,kindness and justice prevail in all sex relationships? Should we not encourage marriage to be cherished and carefully guarded as the rate at which people are marrying and divorcing runs faster than a moving train?
Women's rights secured?Family jars adjusted and all life lived in faith, charity and kindness? Should we not all learn about the acts on sincerity towards all our fellow creatures? Be it living and non-living?
Hmm...this world would be a better place only if you and I kept to the acts of reflecting every time of day. And God Knoweth Best. Assallaamu aleiykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh.

Tuesday, 15 April 2014


Everything in creation proclaims the glory of God.And to man was given dominion over nature.That man may recognize God's Unity and God's Truth. Therefore,it is believed that man should never lose sight of his goal which is the Good, or dispute with the great Teachers who're sent to us all to bring about Unity.(i.e. All

Creatures Should serve God). But of course, we as men,show so much ingratitude in recounting God's favors.His signs in favors in the rain bearing clouds, the cattle that give milk and meat,the bee that produces honey to re freshen and heal us.Above all,the wonderful relations of family and social life and the refinements and comforts of civilization. Dear people, The Holy Qur'an is TRUE.It guides and gives glad tidings.Please

Believe and make the most of life in all things good and lawful.Lets Follow the example of The Prophet Abraham/Ibrahim and be true in Faith and Righteous and do good. God Knows Best.

Saturday, 28 December 2013

How to wear hijab-a few very basic styles for newbies

In my efforts to enlighten my fellow Muslim women about the Hijab.I found this video very helpful to teach women with difficulties in wearing the Hijab appropriately. This video teaches you the basic style of wearing the Hijab.